Break-ups are hard. It doesn’t matter how long you went out for, or who broke up with you, or even if you split up on good terms – it’s always difficult to lose that one person who used to be your best friend. It doesn’t help that people naturally expect you to be fine straight away – this just isn’t always the case!
When people tell you ‘just go out and meet new people’, if you’re strapped for cash this obviously is not going to work. People also don’t realise that it isn’t just that simple to go out straight away – you’re not ready yet! (Unless you are, in which case go for it!)
Here are some easy things to do that will help you get over your broken heart.
- Cry (if you need to)
Listen to all those break up songs, and cry your heart out. It’s a terrible situation, and you’ve been badly hurt. Sometimes crying can be really therapeutic. It’s also way better than keeping it all in inside. Do remember though – this can only be a temporary solution, keep it to one-two days MAXIMUM. If you let yourself be consumed by your situation you will find it incredibly hard to feel better.
Not only will you instantly feel better (get an angry pump up playlist going), but you’re doing great things for your body. When you exercise, you release a chemical called ‘serotonin’, one that instantly improves your mood and wellbeing. You’re also sure to be feeling way better than you would if you were stuffing your face with chocolate and ice-cream (which ideally we would love to do, but in this situation you want to beat the cravings!)
- Hang out with friends (for free!)
Make sure that your time is spent hanging with friends (the ones that make you feel good). The less time you spend alone wallowing alone in your own sadness, the better you will feel. If you make sure that your time is well spent doing things that make you happy, you will resent this breakup less. Get your best friend on the phone and organise to do a (preferably free) activity ASAP.
- Delete (or hide) him/her from your newsfeed
You may not want to do this, but in order to get over this person, you’re going to need to make sure you can’t see when they’re going out or hooking up with someone new. If the break-up ends on a negative, it is okay for you to delete them off Facey, unfollow them on Instagram and to say sayonara to them on Snapchat. Out of sight, out of mind as the old saying goes.
- Think positively
As unhelpful as the saying ‘don’t be sad because it’s over, be happy because it happens’ is, it does have an element of truth to it. Think about the lessons you have learned, and the great things that have happened. Don’t let a breakup bring you down, or stop you from being the incredible, happy, amazing you! Everything does happen for a reason, and good things will come to you soon, we promise!