How to keep going when times are tough

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This blog post comes on a more serious note than usual, as many of us are going into that dreaded exam period. It can sometimes be hard to keep your thoughts positive in such a stressful and difficult time period, but we recognise that for some people, feeling depressed is a constant state of mind. We have written this blog post to discuss methods that we have tried, and friends of ours have recommended. As a disclaimer: we are not psychiatrists and this blog post should not replace a trip to the doctors. We encourage anyone who is experiencing dark thoughts to go to their GP, or call one of these free help hotlines.

Depression is more common than we think, with 1 in 4 people having the disease in their lifetimes. It’s more than just a mood, and can manifest itself in many different ways. Those with depression find day-to-day life increasingly difficult. Beyondblue offers a comprehensive list of signs and symptoms here: http://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/depression

Below are some of our own tips for short-term help.

  1. If a bad event happens in your life, carry on

This sounds bad. In no way shape or form are we suggesting that you completely forget what has happened, but more don’t let it bring your life to a standstill. My mum’s advice when my friend passed away was ‘don’t stop living, don’t stay at home in your room crying, make sure you keep going to work and seeing your friends.’ This piece of advice changed my life whenever anything bad happened – whether it be a breakup, a really bad mark on a test, or any event that had a negative impact on my mood.

Other wise words from the most inspirational woman in my life were ‘Nothing stays the same forever, even if things are going really badly and you are hating your life, everything is temporary’. This gave me insight that no matter how bad things are, things inevitably change and naturally you will find something that improves your quality of life eventually.

  1. If social media is making you anxious or depressed, get off it

There is quite honestly nothing worse than sitting on Facebook or Instagram and thinking that everyone is having a better time than you. A friend once said ‘Why are you comparing your everyday life to someone else’s highlight reel’. No one will ever show themselves looking bad having a boring day at home watching banal television. Even #nomakeupselfies have a filter on them. Something I personally found therapeutic was deleting the Facebook and Instagram apps (but keeping messenger) so that I was only accessing these programs on a computer. A social media detox is really good every now and again, and you will find that you stop relying on it for entertainment all the time.

  1. Exercise!

Even if it is only a walk around the block, the endorphins that your body releases when you exercise instantly make you feel better. Not only are you making your body feel good (because lets be honest, no one feels great after lying on the couch eating food all day!) but you’re also getting outside and breathing in the fresh air. Looking at the beauty that is around you is sometimes a really great way to take your mind off things.

  1. Call a friend

Sometimes feeling alone can be so overwhelming, and as humans our natural instinct when feeling depressed is to isolate ourselves even more. It’s a natural defence mechanism built into our brains, as we are feeling vulnerable and don’t want to get even more rejected. Call one of your closest friends to chat (you don’t even have to tell them you’re feeling down if you don’t want to), and instantly feel better as you two have a laugh together.

These tips are just a few that we personally believe work for us, however every person is different. If you feel as though nothing will ever get better and are having more dark days than good ones, these are warning signs that you need to get professional help. Never be afraid to reach out ❤

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How to deal with a break-up when you’re a Broke-Ass Student

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Break-ups are hard. It doesn’t matter how long you went out for, or who broke up with you, or even if you split up on good terms – it’s always difficult to lose that one person who used to be your best friend. It doesn’t help that people naturally expect you to be fine straight away – this just isn’t always the case!

When people tell you ‘just go out and meet new people’, if you’re strapped for cash this obviously is not going to work. People also don’t realise that it isn’t just that simple to go out straight away – you’re not ready yet! (Unless you are, in which case go for it!)

Here are some easy things to do that will help you get over your broken heart.

  1. Cry (if you need to)

Listen to all those break up songs, and cry your heart out. It’s a terrible situation, and you’ve been badly hurt. Sometimes crying can be really therapeutic. It’s also way better than keeping it all in inside. Do remember though – this can only be a temporary solution, keep it to one-two days MAXIMUM. If you let yourself be consumed by your situation you will find it incredibly hard to feel better.

  1. Exercise!

Not only will you instantly feel better (get an angry pump up playlist going), but you’re doing great things for your body. When you exercise, you release a chemical called ‘serotonin’, one that instantly improves your mood and wellbeing. You’re also sure to be feeling way better than you would if you were stuffing your face with chocolate and ice-cream (which ideally we would love to do, but in this situation you want to beat the cravings!)

  1. Hang out with friends (for free!)

Make sure that your time is spent hanging with friends (the ones that make you feel good). The less time you spend alone wallowing alone in your own sadness, the better you will feel. If you make sure that your time is well spent doing things that make you happy, you will resent this breakup less. Get your best friend on the phone and organise to do a (preferably free) activity ASAP.

  1. Delete (or hide) him/her from your newsfeed

You may not want to do this, but in order to get over this person, you’re going to need to make sure you can’t see when they’re going out or hooking up with someone new. If the break-up ends on a negative, it is okay for you to delete them off Facey, unfollow them on Instagram and to say sayonara to them on Snapchat. Out of sight, out of mind as the old saying goes.

  1. Think positively

As unhelpful as the saying ‘don’t be sad because it’s over, be happy because it happens’ is, it does have an element of truth to it. Think about the lessons you have learned, and the great things that have happened. Don’t let a breakup bring you down, or stop you from being the incredible, happy, amazing you! Everything does happen for a reason, and good things will come to you soon, we promise!

Our favourite 11 TED Talks for students in their early 20’s

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Here is a link we wanted to share with you all. It contains 11 TED talks all 20-year-olds should watch.

Your twenties are a time period of discovery, and fast change. We understand the difficulties as you move away from certain friendship groups, wondering whether you should continue to do the degree you’re doing, and the intermittent question – ‘what are you going to do after uni?’

This scary time period is full of excitement, learning and experiences. So go out there and live life to the fullest.

These TED talks will hopefully inspire you, and help you think about the greater meanings of life. And it’s good procrastination too – we guess!